Wondering Why???

    Two posts in two days. I am on a roll here. This is a long overdue post and it has finally found its way into the web. Well let me give a brief intro to what I am about to wonder.I am wondering why marriage brings out a different person in everyone involved? Right from the couple to the in-laws. The dormant personality comes out in everyone. Why is it?

    

    A guy who has never been into the kitchen in his entire life suddenly tries to help his bride soon after his marriage. No wonder why all moms-in-law get antsy with their daughters-in-law. Am not saying this is wrong. But all am asking is why does a guy never think of the fact that his mom, much much older than his wife, had been toiling in the same kitchen all these years without any assistance from her husband or son whatsoever. Again am not sure if all guys are like this, but I have seen a lot of instances where this has happened. A major cause for the instant hatred from the mom-in-law.

    Now lets pan the camera on the bride. The girls suddenly want their husbands to be with them all through the day. The guys should not have a life outside their marriage. They should give up their hobbies, friends, interests and all they have to do is spend time with their wives. Now isn't that too much to ask? Imagine, there was this guy who has a lot of friends, who loves being outdoors, hanging out with friends. Why would you want him to give up all that just because he is married to you? I am not saying he should always be let to do what he wants, but he needs his space too right. I know that a girl comes into a new strange family where her only solace is her better half. But then again a guy's got to live his life too right? 

  The same goes for the girl too. She has come to an unknown territory, trying to learn the ropes of the trade. And why is it that the guys get irritated over the fact that she yearns to visit her parents often? Man she has given up everything for you and why can't you give up this one little thing. To heck with society and their set ways. She has a life too just as you do. She too has the same yearnings to spend time with her friends, continue her hobbies and do what she likes to do. Kitchen is not all that is there for her to do. And why is it that you think that is all she has been married to do? And most guys won't talk the issue. They expect their wives to understand the silent words. How pathetic? And dude, the television set is not what you have been married to. 

Now comes the famous mother-in-law. She is a woman too. She has a daughter too. But she cannot treat her daughter-in-law the same as her son or daughter. When it comes to the daughter-in-law, all rules are meant to be broken. She will fuss if her daughter doesn't come and visit her often from her in-laws place, but will be irritated with her daughter-in-law if she wants to visit her parents. I really don't know who creates all these rules. A mom will be the best mom for her sons and daughters but a bad mom-in-law for her daughter-in-law. Why is that??? All mom's let their daughter have their way with them. A daughter can sleep as long as she wishes. A mom will fret over her daughter when she leaves for work. She will wait up to serve her kid dinner. But all this will fly out of the window for a daughter-in-law.

    All of us are hypocrites. We want what we want. We are all selfish. This is what is clear to me from all those that I have written above. But why? Is life meant to be such a tough act. Why can't we all not realize that we are not donning a role in a stage, but rather living a life and be truthful to ourselves. Each of us have a life. Married or unmarried. Our relationships play a major part in our life and yes we live for someone. But then we have our own lives too right? So why this hypocrisy. 

    Why can't we just let others be? Why do we expect others to live our dreams? Why can't we respect the fact that they have a dream of their own and why can we not bend a little and give them a hand in realizing those dreams? I am not married. But I have been seeing it all around me. I know you guys telling "You will know when you take the field". I am not denying that. But all I am saying is, why don't we all live lives the way it is meant to be? Happy and real. Do we really have to change ourselves and others in the process to achieve what we think is happiness? I would like to differ here.