I have my views on many things in life. But I often run the risk of conflicting those of people I know. They can be my friends, my colleagues, family friends or my relatives. Even now I have so many thoughts queued up in my brain crying to be let out. Some of it might offend my friends cos it's against what they are practicing. It's not like any flaws or anything but certain general aspects of life that some people follow trigger a spark in me and there goes on a bright red light in my head crying out loud against it. Should I still go ahead and say it out loud? Should I fight a battle on those views? Is it worth it? I don't know. I seriously don't. I have always spoken my mind. But not many would welcome it and accept it on its face value. I have had those fights with my friends where I have stood my ground and they theirs, in the end leaving the issue where it started. Unresolved!!
Right now what I want to spit out and banter my thoughts on are delicate things. I might step on some toes there. I might just cross some lines there. But I would be voicing my views. Views that are there no matter who practices what. So my question is should I go on saying them out loud here in the blog space? Is it ok even If I know for a fact that it might hurt or offend a few of whom I would be seeing very often and who are my friends. I don't really know. I know this is my space and I can say anything I want. But still there is this unsee-able boundary in my mind that I do not want to cross and create issues that might not be worth it in the end. So am confused here. What do you think I should be doing?
Hm... from what I have learned. I like to say "Good For you" when I do not like to say anything further.
ReplyDeleteAhh so far this is the best post I came across today. And I loved the feelings you invoked within me.
ReplyDeletePersonally speaking, I encourage such behaviour of letting your views openly especially when it is about a friend. If not you (being a friend) who else will let him/her know such things? If you are hurting your friends in the process, it is just for the moment. But in fact you are doing a much bigger help in his/her life to grow up as a good human being. As a matter of fact, I have always respected and accepted such views if they come towards me. What is the use of being called as friend if you can’t put your mind openly in front of a person whom you call a friend? Suppressing your views or simply turning your head is in fact a wrong thing. At least I do think that way.
On a different note, it is your blog and you have every right to openly discuss your views and feelings. May be you can hurt your friends as well :)… But, if my advice is worth taking, I suggest you to see the severity of the topic you are going to publicly write. Whether is it too personal for your friend? How much it will hurt your so called friend. Depending on all those things, actually letting him/her know about it personally will be a better idea. May be directly speaking or if you cant then e-mailing them personally will be the best. And if it is a simple thing, you can any day write it out openly.
What ever way you choose, letting your friend know about it is compulsory. Well the way they do receive your views may differ depending on the individual and hence do let them know accordingly but don’t forget to let them know for it is a must being a responsible friend yourself.
This is exactly the reason why I started writing my BLOG. I needed a space where I can pour out whatever my heart feels about things where I had no other way but shut up. This is your place and your "Freedom To Write". Freedom to express.
ReplyDeleteHowever, if you really care for the person, believe me, its not worth it to hurt them. Think of it like you are stronger than them. You suppressing your feelings for the people you care for. Most of the times I suppress my views because I feel people are important. If I started expressing, no one would be there in my life. Again, if they are really worth it!