so they say.. I have these wonderful friends who did not wanna get married ( I am in the club too :)). We have our own reasons u know. Let me list a few
1. Fear of commitment (this tops the list)
2. Not wanting to be responsible ( We are a bunch of good for nothing gen nex loners)
3. Fear of losing independence (What is it anyways?)
4. Afraid if the spouse will match our ideologies(Ideologies???)
5. Fear of losing the inner circle of friends
6. Generally not interested (This is the one reason most of us say to all who asks us)
Whats in marrying? Whats with these moms and dads wanting to get their kid settled? Whoever told them that marriage = settling.
So we were this happy go lucky, irresponsible, independent bunch of kids(???). We were the first to attend any marriages. We were there to pull the legs of any bride and any groom. We simply went there to eat(:)) and to meet our long lost friends. But suddenly (It all happens in matter of days or hours. Dangerous than cardiac arrests) one by one all of them started tying the knot. The never-marry club is now fast becoming married-only club. I can see impending doom in my horizon.
But again whats with marrying guys. Suddenly the world has become all pink and blue and all romantic colors. You cannot live without that one person, whose name you did not know until this very moment. You are worried for them, they are worried for you. You spend hours on the phone ending up paying a fortune to the phone company. And you are all smiles and blushes and what not?. How? how? how does this happen? How can cupid strike so suddenly? How can he make two complete strangers, forever each others for the rest of their lives? I simply fail to understand any logic in this.
Well, yes am terrified thinking about this. But still when I see my loved ones all happy, with their eyes full of dreams and hopes for their loved ones, I end up being happy too. No one has ever been able to answer me how all this happens in flash. Can some one please tell me? Cos as I said I can see impending doom in my horizon.. God help me....
1. Fear of commitment (this tops the list)
2. Not wanting to be responsible ( We are a bunch of good for nothing gen nex loners)
3. Fear of losing independence (What is it anyways?)
4. Afraid if the spouse will match our ideologies(Ideologies???)
5. Fear of losing the inner circle of friends
6. Generally not interested (This is the one reason most of us say to all who asks us)
Whats in marrying? Whats with these moms and dads wanting to get their kid settled? Whoever told them that marriage = settling.
So we were this happy go lucky, irresponsible, independent bunch of kids(???). We were the first to attend any marriages. We were there to pull the legs of any bride and any groom. We simply went there to eat(:)) and to meet our long lost friends. But suddenly (It all happens in matter of days or hours. Dangerous than cardiac arrests) one by one all of them started tying the knot. The never-marry club is now fast becoming married-only club. I can see impending doom in my horizon.
But again whats with marrying guys. Suddenly the world has become all pink and blue and all romantic colors. You cannot live without that one person, whose name you did not know until this very moment. You are worried for them, they are worried for you. You spend hours on the phone ending up paying a fortune to the phone company. And you are all smiles and blushes and what not?. How? how? how does this happen? How can cupid strike so suddenly? How can he make two complete strangers, forever each others for the rest of their lives? I simply fail to understand any logic in this.
Well, yes am terrified thinking about this. But still when I see my loved ones all happy, with their eyes full of dreams and hopes for their loved ones, I end up being happy too. No one has ever been able to answer me how all this happens in flash. Can some one please tell me? Cos as I said I can see impending doom in my horizon.. God help me....
Hi! First time here. I belong to that club and was thinking whats there in marriage even on the day my bet(bit?)ter half and people came to meet me. I was saying in full bollywood ishtyle that I will project myself in such a way that they will just say "No" and stuff :P But nothing like that happened and I am now happily married for more than 2 yrs. But even today, I dont have an answer how cupid struck so suddenly wink,wink. Anyways, all's well that ends well. :)
ReplyDeleteI dont have an answer either .It just happened .
ReplyDeleteSwaram : Thanks for stopping by:). I guess this is one of those questions that we dont have an answer for. It just happens probably.
ReplyDeleteGiri : Lets just say, everything happens for good. :)
I have just one thing to tell you my friend. Actually more than one., let me just list them out in the order that comes to my mind
ReplyDelete1. Open up. Your mind can be a monkey. But its upto you to decide how you want to think
2. When it comes to this topic, your paranoia is unfounded and baseless. Maybe you should decide to confront your fears.
3. If so many people are tying the knot, there has to be some basis for it.
You know me as a friend and I was an elite member of this club too once. But not anymore. I realise I was being pretty silly. Unfortunately, it is the choices that we make who define who we are. Make the right choice my friend.
Agree with Sriram....open ur mind to the idea of marriage first.
ReplyDeleteDont go into it with preconceived notions. Something which has worked for centuries in our country shd be having some solid base behind it, right.
I doubt ur parents are going to force u to marry the 1st guy who comes to see u. Go with the flow......it will all fall into place.
3 months after u r married & when u look back at these times u'll be hitting urself for behaving like an idiot:-D
Nice Post coz u've expressed a doubt all modern unmarried girls have abt arranged marriage.
ReplyDeleteIts just tht we married people have no patience with it;-D
Sriram : Thanks for stopping by. Yeah I know you were the mayor of the club and now I know you are happily married and rightly so. I guess I should open up my other eye and start seeing the world with both of them. Lets see.. :)
ReplyDeleteReflections : Thanks for the comments. Well I guess I should go with the flow after all. I bet I will be writing another post on this topic. But I cannot assure you of the outcome though :)
it happens. :) finishing two years soon. it just happened. we had to be with each other. it just felt right. we were at peace with ourselves when we were with each other. it just seemed right. two years later, it still is right. :) not a regret.
ReplyDeleteaint certainly a doomsday scenario if you find the right one. did i mention 'right'? ;p
Sriram :Marriage as a name has existed and is still existing but the wat abt the values of marriage?? yeah wen so many people are tying the knot there has to be some basis for it and wen i discover it am ready to take the plunge...
ReplyDeleteHmm... that's an interesting post.
ReplyDeleteWhat I would say is this. Love just happens.
Roop : Mr.Right is the most difficult find, and if it turns out to be wrong, well just can't imagine that :)
ReplyDeleteVj: Dude, we are both are in the same club and I cant help but agree with what you say ;)
Siva : Everyone I know says so :). But HOW?????. I guess, no one can answer that.
Ha Ha Ha just recently i came across a similiar post and discussed a few similiar thoughts. It seems this is one hot topic in blogger space too...No wonder the comment section of this particular post is soo big.
ReplyDeleteYes everyone dreams of a BETTER HALF but when we dont get that person then its better to be ourselves. After all it is our life isnt it?
Asif : Spot on. And no one really has an answer.. :(
ReplyDeleteStill looking for answer????
ReplyDeleteAnswer for what?
Go through my comment once again. You will get the answer.
And dont worry. You will get your type of guy.Till then wait for that guy :)
Asif : Ha ha ha :)
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